Saturday, November 28, 2009

Hindi ako nagtataka

Mag-aapat na taon na nga pala akong single. May halong "oo nga" moment yung pagkakasabi ko kasi madalas di ko naiisip yung tunay na kahulugan nun. Now that I think about it, siguro kaya di ko napansin yung mga oras ng pagiging single ko eh dahil sa dami ng ginawa ko.

Ako kasi yata yung isa sa mga taong madalas naka-*on hold* ang buhay pag nasa relasyon. Hindi naman dahil hindi pwedeng magpakabibo or magmaganda. Kahit may freedom to do what I want, mas madalas kuntento na maging "wind beneath his wings" ang drama. Sabi nga, supportive lola.

Ilang linggo na lang at apat na taon na akong walang boyfriend. Come to think of it, ito na yung pinakamahabang panahon ko in-between relationships. Naisip ko tuloy kung dapat na ba akong kabahan. Yun kasing ilan sa pamilya ko at mga kaibigan ko na dati naman eh walang pakialam kung single ako eh nagsisimula nang nag-iisip kung kanino ako irireto just to get me off the shelf.

And talking about shelf, naalala ko tuloy yung tanong ni Kristine Hermosa sa teleserye nila ni Jericho Rosales. Sabi nya, "May shelf life ba ang pag-ibig?" Pati tuloy ako napaisip.

Kanina nabasa ko yung NAGTATAKA KA BA KUNG BAKIT SINGLE KA PA?? sa Facebook. Natawa ako ng sobra at for once, after what felt like a long time, I paused long enough para pag-isipan kung bakit single pa ako hanggang ngayon. Hindi ako nagtataka kasi sa listahang ginawa nung sumulat nung nakakatuwang post eh naka-relate ako sa mga ito:


1) MASYADONG INDEPENDENT - baka naman masyado mo napoproject na kaya mongmabuhay ng wala silang lahat, ayan tuloy parang hindi nila maramdaman na kailangan mo rin sila kaya dun na lang sila sa taong tingin nila ay magkakaron sila ng silbi.

>>To paraphrase yung tatlong super close "warrior" male friends ko (who told me almost exactly the same words): "Lagi mo kasing pinapakita na kayang-kaya mo mag-isa"

Ako (thought balloon): Huh? Paanong pinapakita? Kung ano man yun, hindi ko sinasadya...promise.

2) MATAAS ANG STANDARDS- siguro hindi na natanggal sa isip mo ung pangarap mo nung bata ka pa. aba, kelangan mo na gumising sa katotohanan na walang ideal guy. ok cge, kung makita mo nga ung hinahanap mo na gwapong matalino na mayaman na mabait pero nung nakasama mo naman eh nakita mo hindi pala siya madalas maligo, mahiyain mag-toothbrushkaya naman sobrang bad breath niya sa umaga, puro barya ang mga hita at binti o kaya naman daig pa ang tambucho sa lakas manigarilyo, may nakausli na “pang labing-isang” daliri sa kamay at NAKAPANGINGILABOT NA BALAT dahil madami siyang AN-AN SA kanyang LIKOD NA PARA BANG MAPA NG CEBU… oh eh di turn-off ka na? kung lahat ng tao ay katulad mo na mataas ang standards, malamang wala ng magboboyfriend at maggirlfriend ngaun puro friends na lang.

>>Hindi ako sure kung pasok sa kategoryang ito yung paghahanap nung trait na "ok kausap". Disclaimer lang, hindi ibig sabihin kailangan matalino o presidente ng debate club. Gusto ko lang eh yung pag na-stuck kami sa traffic eh may mapapag-usapan naman kami. Yung tipong pag kasama ko siya di ko mararamdaman yung paglipas ng bawat minuto dahil busy kami sa sarili naming mundo.

3) UBOD KA NG KASUNGITAN - maski naman kahit sino hindi masarap lapitan at kausapin ang taong mukhang nangangain ng tao tapos liligawan pa? dapat kc kahit konti maging approachable ka naman para kahit na hindi ka kagandahan, madidiskubre niya na masarap ka palang kausap at masaya kang kasama. (^^,)

>>Ito yung medyo tricky. Serious daw kasi ako. Isa sa mga manifestations ata ng pagiging uber introvert ko. Mataray daw ako. Madalas kasi tahimik lang ako at diretso kung magsalita. Kaya siguro hindi na katakataka na minsan, the first impression lasts.

8) SOBRANG BUSY - alam mo ba ung kantang ‘Narda’? ganyan ang mangyayari sa iyo, hanggang kanta na lang ang aabutin ng nagkakagusto sayo dahil maski pagpa-pluck ng kilay mo wala kang time.

>>Ito ako noon. At magiging ganito ulit soon.

5) NAGKUKULONG SA BAHAY - walang makaka-appreciate sa panloob o panlabas na beauty mo kung nagkukulong ka lang sa bahay DAIG MO PA ANG MGA PRESO sa BILIBID na NAKA-BARTOLINA. okay, nanjan nga ang nanay mo para sabihin na maganda ka pero im sure umay na umay na rin yan sa pagmumukha mo kaya mas maigi kung lumabas ka.. pagkagaling sa office, pwede ka magmall o kya gumimik kasama mga officemates mo, o kaya naman sumali sa mga organization sa simbahan or sa neighborhood.

>>At ganito naman ako ngayon. Ito yung tinatawag kong "in a force field" moments ko. Kumbaga kung si Batman may batcave, ako may to-the-batcave itches din. Ang sarap lang kasing tumigil pansamanta sa gitna ng nakakahilong ikot ng mundo. Yung maramdamang I'm standing still in the midst of all the noises and frenetic pace sa paligid ko.

13) ONE OF THE BOYS: Ayan, isa pang problema ng mga gurls... kadalasan, dahil sa sobra namang close sa mga boys, nagmumukha na silang one of the boys, na kung saan sayo shi-ni-share ng mga boys ang kilig at iyak moments nila with other gurls. Ouch! Masakit yun, lalo na pag type mo yung friend mo na guy. Ingat-ingat mahirap kasi pag masyado kang close sa mga boys kasi dumadating ang point na ang tingin nila sayo… MAS MASARAP KANG KAIBIGAN… aray!!! isa pa, parang lalaki na din ang tingin nila sayo… mapapansin mo yan, kapag nag-skirt or nag-spaghetti strap ka, tapos inaasar ka na ng mga friend mo na boys for being “gurl na gurl”. kasi ang boys, pag nakakita ng gurl in a sexy dress (tumatahimik yan, at may parang kumukulo sa loob nila)… so pag tinawanan ka, naku, sign na un…

>>Ayan, ayan namaaaaaan. Ipinanganak ata talaga akong "one of the boys". Bata pa man hindi ko na nakahiligan ang maglaro ng perceived "for girls" only pursuits gaya ng manika o bahay-bahayan. Libro o stick pang syatong lang ang kinalakhan ko. Mahilig din ako sa martial arts at mga larong nagkakaroon ng balyahan. Madalas tuloy mas marami akong nagiging kaibigang lalaki na ang tingin sa akin eh lalaki rin.

At last but not the least:

[Wrong Time]
‘Eto naman ‘yung mga laging idinadahilan na masyado pa silang bata o kaya
masyado na silang matanda. May mga tao raw na ganyan, ‘yung pakiramdam
nila laging may tamang panahon para sa pag-ibig. Pero ang labo lang
kasi tuwing may pagkakataon naman, lagi nilang naiisip na maling
panahon pa iyon. Oo, wrong timing lagi ang pag-ibig para sa kanila kasi
madalas sumasakto kung kelan meron silang board exams, problema sa
pamilya, o long test kinabukasan. :)

>>May built-in magnet ata ako sa wrong time.

Masaya ba ako na single ako? Oo. Pero hindi ibig sabihin nun gusto ko nang maging single forever. Siguro hindi ko lang iniisip masyado kaya di ko napapansin na I'm leaning dangerously towards being the "one" (a.k.a. alone - single forever). Basta sigurado ako, I believe in that kind of love. Whatever will be, will be.

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'Di ko alam ano pinagkaka-busyhan ko kuno nung panahong umikot na at maraming napatawa ang post na 'to. Naisip ko tuloy minsan baka kung ano ang panis sa iba, posibleng pwede pa sa panlasa ng iba.

Ang sarap talagang tumawa.

NAGTATAKA KA BA KUNG BAKIT SINGLE KA PA??

* SINGLE: Minsan ayos lang maging SINGLE kase free na free ka gawin kung ano ang gusto mo o kaya makakapunta ka kung saan mo gusto pumunta pero kung minsan,. lalo na’t malamig ang hangin o kaya maganda ung view, magwiwish ka na sana may yumayakap sa’yo, hahalikan ka sa noo at titignan ka na parang ikaw na yata ang pinakamagandang babae sa buong mundo!! At pinaka-pogi naman kung lalake ka... pwede rin 2 sa mga bakla at tomboy basta SINGLE...

*kaya heto, susubukan ko bilangin ang mga dahilan kung bakit single pa tayo. Gaano katagal na ba kayo walang nagiging boyfriend/girlfriend? tingnan natin..

1) MASYADONG INDEPENDENT - baka naman masyado mo napoproject na kaya mongmabuhay ng wala silang lahat, ayan tuloy parang hindi nila maramdaman na kailangan mo rin sila kaya dun na lang sila sa taong tingin nila ay magkakaron sila ng silbi.

2) MATAAS ANG STANDARDS- siguro hindi na natanggal sa isip mo ung pangarap mo nung bata ka pa. aba, kelangan mo na gumising sa katotohanan na walang ideal guy. ok cge, kung makita mo nga ung hinahanap mo na gwapong matalino na mayaman na mabait pero nung nakasama mo naman eh nakita mo hindi pala siya madalas maligo, mahiyain mag-toothbrushkaya naman sobrang bad breath niya sa umaga, puro barya ang mga hita at binti o kaya naman daig pa ang tambucho sa lakas manigarilyo, may nakausli na “pang labing-isang” daliri sa kamay at NAKAPANGINGILABOT NA BALAT dahil madami siyang AN-AN SA kanyang LIKOD NA PARA BANG MAPA NG CEBU… oh eh di turn-off ka na? kung lahat ng tao ay katulad mo na mataas ang standards, malamang wala ng magboboyfriend at maggirlfriend ngaun puro friends na lang.

3) UBOD KA NG KASUNGITAN - maski naman kahit sino hindi masarap lapitan at kausapin ang taong mukhang nangangain ng tao tapos liligawan pa? dapat kc kahit konti maging approachable ka naman para kahit na hindi ka kagandahan, madidiskubre niya na masarap ka palang kausap at masaya kang kasama. (^^,)

4) MASAMA ANG UGALI - kung papipiliin ako kung sa masungit o sa masama ang ugali… dun na ko sa masungit! ang masungit kc, hindi likas na itim ang budhi nyan, may taglay na istorya sa likod ng simangot niya. sabihan mo lang yan ng ‘peek-a-boo’BAKA ngitian ka na. ibang istorya na kase ang masama ang ugali dahil mula pa yang ugali na yan sa kaibuturan ng kanyang mga balunbalunan. sa una mabait, pero madidiskubre mo na parang trapo ang tao kung tratuhin nito. tsk tsk tsk. pero hindi pa naman huli ang lahat kung kaya mo pa magbago, bigyan mo ng pagkakataon ang sarili mo magbago. magdasal ka kay lord ng mataimtim huh?? *hahahaha*

5) NAGKUKULONG SA BAHAY - walang makaka-appreciate sa panloob o panlabas na beauty mo kung nagkukulong ka lang sa bahay DAIG MO PA ANG MGA PRESO sa BILIBID na NAKA-BARTOLINA. okay, nanjan nga ang nanay mo para sabihin na maganda ka pero im sure umay na umay na rin yan sa pagmumukha mo kaya mas maigi kung lumabas ka.. pagkagaling sa office, pwede ka magmall o kya gumimik kasama mga officemates mo, o kaya naman sumali sa mga organization sa simbahan or sa neighborhood.

6) MUKHA KANG LOSYANG - ito ang kadalasang krimen ng mga single. Hindi ka nagbibigay ng panahon para ayusin ang sarili physically. at bakit pa nga ba e wala ka naman dahilan para mag-ayos, diba? MALI !!! Dapat nga lalo ka mag-ayos para makita ang marketability mo. hindi krimen ang maging vain kahit konti. did u know na ang ratio ng lalaki sa babae ay 4:1? kaya lola, magsimula ka na mag-ayos at baka yung crush mo ay maagaw pa ng mga intrimitida sa paligid mo.

7) MASYADONG MAGALING - medyo sensitive itong topic na ito dahil nasasagasaan na ang male ego dito eh. oo, may ibang lalake na nabuburaot dahil mas magaling at mas marunong ang babae sa kanila. hindi na natin ito problema dahil malamang insecurity nila ang bumubulong sa kanila pero minsan kase hindi na makatarungan na laging nai-inferior ang lalake. kailangan maramdaman din nila sa iyo na hindi mo sila ia-under the saya if maging girlfriend ka nila. hindi ko rin sinasabi na i-compromise mo ang talents mo, ano bang magagawa ko kung likas na talentadong bata ka pero ang tamang gawin ay wag naman ipagdukdukan na sobrang galing mong tao. wag na wag mong kalimutan na may 2 klaseng yabang dito sa mundo. wag kang mang-intimidate kung ayaw mong ma-intimidate.

8) SOBRANG BUSY - alam mo ba ung kantang ‘Narda’? ganyan ang mangyayari sa iyo, hanggang kanta na lang ang aabutin ng nagkakagusto sayo dahil maski pagpa-pluck ng kilay mo wala kang time.

9) DALA ANG BIGAT NG KAHAPON - may kasabihan nga, “how can u look forward when u keep looking back?”walang mangyayari sa love life mo kung dala mo pa ang kabiguan na dinulot ng nakaraan mo. walang sense ang magpakabitter dahil in the end, lalo ka lang papanget. panget na nga, bitter pa! tsaka wag kang matakot masaktan kung gusto mo magmahal muli. laging kaakibat ng love ang pain dahil hindi ka masasaktan kung hindi ka nagmahal. at isa pa, wag ka ring matakot na kunin ang pagkakataon kung nandiyan na sa harap mo. pano mo malalaman na masarap ang chocolate kung hindi mo titikman? (^^,)

10) MASYADONG-MASYADO!! - masyadong maganda, masyadong matalino, masyadong talented at masyadong mayaman. minsan ito ang mga nagiging factor kung bakit walang gustong manligaw sayo. pero hindi mo naman ito kasalanan diba? katulad din ito ng scenario sa #7. siguro mas maigi kung HUMBLE KA LANG wag mayabang, at imbis na maging hambog, share na lang the blessing. hindi ka lang maganda / matalino / talented / mayaman / mabait pa!! im sure lahat mahuhumaling sayo.

11) IMBORNAL ANG BUNGANGA MO: naku kalimitang problema ito ng mga TAKLESANG TAO at ng mga masyado nang confident sa sarili nila. Maganda ka nga, mayaman, mabait naman, sweet naman, maganda naman pumorma, Pero pag nagsalita daig pa ung barker ng mga pedicab sa CUBAO eh! Ang lakas mong magmura!! Pinaglihi ka ba sa Nagmumurang Kamatis? Mga words mo pa ang lulupit e… memorize mo na lahat ng mga bastos na salitang Pilipino at mga murang pinoy. Shempre palengkera dating mo nyan dba? Naku lalo pa kung mapanira ka, lalong wag! Matatakot lahat makipag-friends sayo, kahit babae!! Hahaha! Bawas mura kapatid! Instead of saying: Bwaka ng Ina, P*tang ina, P*king Ina!! Say: flowers, candies, rainbows, sheeps, clouds, butterflies and PUT A LITTLE MORE!! Or. . .

TANG INUMIN MO WAG MILO!!! O dba? bumabango na “bibig” nya, yeah! di na “bunganga”.

MINSAN NAMAN SA MGA BABAE:

12) TOO MANY BOYS: Minsan nai-intimidate din ang mga guys pag masyado maraming boys ang nakabakod sa girl. Wala ka ngang boyfriend, pero lagi mo naman prino-project na ang daming lumalandi sayo (na pawang mga superficial lang naman at mukhang walang potential na magbigay ng TRUE LOVE sayo). Pag ganyan palagi ang aura at drama mo, most likely, uurong yung mga boys na may HONEST INTENTIONS sayo at kaya kang mahalin ng todo, kasi natatakot sila na baka ikaw ang di kayang magmahal ng totoo. Alam kasi ng mga boys yan… na kahit kayo na (nakapili ka na ng BF mo), di pa din mawawala ang mga “boys” na nakapaligid sayo…

13) ONE OF THE BOYS: Ayan, isa pang problema ng mga gurls... kadalasan, dahil sa sobra namang close sa mga boys, nagmumukha na silang one of the boys, na kung saan sayo shi-ni-share ng mga boys ang kilig at iyak moments nila with other gurls. Ouch! Masakit yun, lalo na pag type mo yung friend mo na guy. Ingat-ingat mahirap kasi pag masyado kang close sa mga boys kasi dumadating ang point na ang tingin nila sayo… MAS MASARAP KANG KAIBIGAN… aray!!! isa pa, parang lalaki na din ang tingin nila sayo… mapapansin mo yan, kapag nag-skirt or nag-spaghetti strap ka, tapos inaasar ka na ng mga friend mo na boys for being “gurl na gurl”. kasi ang boys, pag nakakita ng gurl in a sexy dress (tumatahimik yan, at may parang kumukulo sa loob nila)… so pag tinawanan ka, naku, sign na un…

14) STRICT ANG PARENTS: uhmmm… may two words kami dyan: GOOD LUCK!

at eto ang pinakamatindi sa lahat:

15) WALA SA GUHIT NG PALAD MO ANG MAGKA-BOYFRIEND OR GIRLFRIEND!! - shiyet ang saklap naman nito kung ganun nga!! hindi porke hindi ka na magkakaroon ng kasintahan ay loser ka na. malamang may nakalaan na plano sayo si GOD kaya gusto niya na wala kang BOYFRIEND OR GIRLFRIEND siguro kaya wala kang kasintahan dahil kailangan ang full attention mo sa pagtulong sa pagtaguyod ng pamilya mo, baka yayaman ka at magiging tagapagmana mo mga pamangkin mo, (EH BAKIT PAMANGKIN PA???! HAHAHA!!) baka kailangan ang full time and support mo sa organization mo..maraming dahilan eh pero nakakasiguro naman ako na walang bagay na nangyayari sayo na hindi kagustuhan ng nasa itaas. laging may greater purpose kung bakit nangyayari ang nangyayari. kaya kung halimbawang may darating, wag na pakyeme. kung hindi mo type ang lalapit sayo, let it go gracefully dahil mahirap na at baka balikan ka ng karma. kung nandyan na, gawin na lang ang best para mag-stay siya sa buhay mo at nang hindi ka na nagtataka pa kung bakit SINGLE ka. see what i’m sayin??

hmmmmm…. mukhang BITIN ka pa eh!! DAGDAGAN NATIN?? (^^,) hehe cge…

(P.S.) = “PAHABOL-SULAT”

O ETO PA…

[Destiny Addict]
Ito yung mga taong hinihintay na gumawa ang tadhana ng paraan para pagtagpuin sila ng kanilang mga “soulmates” or whatever. Ayaw kumilos o kung ano pa dahil naniniwala siya na kung sino man ‘yung talagang para sa kanya ay darating na lang bigla sa paraang maaaring hindi niya inaasahan– wow!! parang Serendipity.

Laging maririnig na nagsasabing: “Darating din yan. ‘Wag kasing hanapin.“

[Perfectionist]
Simula nung magkamalay ang taong ito, nakalista na ang mga bagay na gusto niya
sa kanyang magiging boypren/girlpren. Kapag may nakilala siya at
nakitang madumi ang kuko, magkadikit ang kilay, may butas sa ngipin, o
parang penguin maglakad, wala na. Turn off na ‘yun para sa kanya.

Laging maririnig na nagsasabing:
“Ok na siya e. Kaya lang gusto ko ‘yung ganito…”

[Busy Bee]
Pasensya na sila pero masyado kang maraming inaasikaso tulad ng libro, bolpen,
papel at calculator. Umaalis ka ng 6 am sa bahay at umuuwi ng 7 ng gabi
‘pag weekdays. Pagdating mo sa bahay, gagawa lang ng homework at
matutulog na. Masaya ka nang makanood ng TV ‘pag Sabado (at gumawa ulit
ng homework). Sapat na sa’yo ang kumain sa labas kasama ang pamilya
‘pag Linggo (at gumawa pa rin ng homework).

Laging maririnig na nagsasabing: “Sorry, wala akong time sa ganyan e,”

[Friend Forever Version 1]
Kunwari ka pa dyan. Alam mo namang gusto mo talaga ‘yang best friend o special
friend mo pero hindi mo lang sinasabi at pinapadama dahil ayaw mong
masira ang pagkakaibigan niyong dalawa. ‘Yung tipong ‘pag may kasamang
iba ‘yung gusto mo, kunwari ka pang masaya ka para sa kanya pero sa
totoo lang, gusto mo na malusaw na parang ice caps dahil sa Global Warming.

Laging maririnig na nagsasabing: “I’m so happy for you” o “Sayang naman ‘yung pinagsamahan namin e.”

[Friend Forever Version 2]
Wala tayong magagawa pero talagang malapit ka lang sa kabilang
kasarian–pero bilang kaibigan lang. One-of-the-boys or ladies’ man.
Hindi ka naman homo o bi pero sadyang kaibigan lang ang tingin mo sa
mga taong hindi mo kapareho ng chromosomes. Masaya ka nang
nakaka-hang-out lang sila, nakakakwentuhan, niyayakap nang walang
halong malisya.

Laging maririnig na nagsasabing: “May inuman ba mamaya?” kung babae o “Hatid ko ba kayo mamaya?” kung lalaki

[Born to be... "One"]
Single-blessed ka at wala ka nang magagawa kung ganun. Nilikha ka siguro para maging mag-isa (pero syempre may pamilya at kaibigan ka naman, duh!) hanggang tumanda ka na at ipadala sa Home for the Aged. Marami akong kakilalang mukhang ganito ang patutunguhan at hindi naman sila mga pangit o abnoy talaga. Minsan lang, masyado silang masungit.

Laging maririnig na nagsasabing: “Mag-isa ako.”

[Happy-go-lucky]
‘Eto yung taong masaya na sa trip-trip lang at kung anu-anong mga
happenings. Kahit sino na lang basta no strings attached. For fun lang
at walang seryosohan please. Personally, ayoko nung mga ganito. Umaapaw
lang siguro ‘yung mga taong ganito sa “L.” Magbuhos ka nalang ng malamig
na tubig sa iyong buong katawan at solb na ‘yan.

Laging maririnig na nagsasabing: “I’m not ready to commit e, but I really like you.”

[Wrong Time]
‘Eto naman ‘yung mga laging idinadahilan na masyado pa silang bata o kaya
masyado na silang matanda. May mga tao raw na ganyan, ‘yung pakiramdam
nila laging may tamang panahon para sa pag-ibig. Pero ang labo lang
kasi tuwing may pagkakataon naman, lagi nilang naiisip na maling
panahon pa iyon. Oo, wrong timing lagi ang pag-ibig para sa kanila kasi
madalas sumasakto kung kelan meron silang board exams, problema sa
pamilya, o long test kinabukasan. :)

Laging maririnig na nagsasabing: “We had the right love at the wrong time…”

[Parent Trap]
Ayaw ni mama o ni papa na magkaboypren/girlpren ang kanilang unica hija/unico hijo kahit na 22 years old na ito at kumikita na ng sarili niyang pera. Kailangan daw magkaron ka muna ng isang strand ng puting buhok bago may makadalaw sa’yo sa bahay. O kaya, baka ikaw ‘yung may problema dahil natatakot ka sa iisipin ng mga magulang mo tungkol sa taong iyong gusto. Baka kasi sabihin nila na masyado siyang bansot/matangkad/baboy/pay
atot para sa’yo.

Laging maririnig na nagsasabing: “Baka magalit si Papa”

[Trauma]
Dahil sa dami ng mga heartbreak na iyong nadama at emo songs na napakinggan mo na noon, sinumpa mo nang hindi ka magmamahal. Ayaw mo na. Sawa ka na sa paglalaslas ng pulso, este, sa paglalagay ng mga madramang stat message sa YM at pag-iyak ng balde-baldeng luha. Awwwww… pwede rin namang masyado kang insecure sa sarili mo kaya hindi ka makapagmatapang na magventure into some love quest.

Laging maririnig na nagsasabing: “Pagod na pagod na akong masaktan!” *hikbi*

[Your Ex-Lover is (NOT) Dead]
Yikes!! Mahal pa rin niya ang kanyang EX at hindi siya maka-get-over sa person. wtf??! Pilit pa rin inaalala ang mga tawanan, iyakan, at PDA moments nilang dalawa kahit ‘yung EX niya ay nakikipag-mabutihan na sa ibang babae/lalaki. Sasabihin mong nakapag-move on ka na pero pag nagkwentuhan tungkol sa pag-ibig, tandadadaaaaan! Siya na naman naiisip mo.

Laging maririnig na nagsasabing: “I’m over him/her…” “tapos iiyak bigla Haha! Baliw!”

[Ayaw]
Dalawa na namang kaso ito. Una, ayaw mo lang talaga magka-”someone”. Hindi ko na pipilitin ungkatin ‘yung dahilan pero may mga pagkakataon lang talaga na ayaw mo. Ikalawa naman, baka…ayaw kasi sa’yo nung gusto mo N’ that’s the shittiest thing ever! Pwedeng ayaw niya sa’yo dahil may girlpren/boypren siya, busy siya or whatever, o kaya ayaw ka lang niya talaga at wala ka nang magagawa kung ganun. =(

Laging maririnig na nagsasabing: “Ayoko pa magkaboypren/girlpren e.” o “Hindi naman niya ko gusto.“

WAZZ GOOD?? MY NAME IS M.C. DUANE…

AT WALA NA NAMAN AKONG MAGAWA!!!

HAHAHA!!! I’M JUST KILLIN’ TIME PEEPS…

ENIWEIZ, DI’BA MAY KASABIHAN NGA NA:

“NASA DIYOS ANG AWA, NASA TAO ANG GAWA”

WALANG MANGYAYARI SA’YO KUNG MAGMUMUKMOK KA NA LANG DIYAN!!!!!!!
KAYA KUNG AKO SA’YO HABANG MAY PANAHON KA PA WAG MO NANG SAYANGIN.

AT TINITIYAK KO SA’YO NA GAGANDA ANG TAKBO NG MUNDO MO.

LUBOS NA GUMAGALANG,
ATE CHARO.


Categories: SAPUL KA BA?? TAGOS NOH?? =p


Monday, November 23, 2009

Warm again

Yesterday I asked myself if I will ever be warm again. I began to feel cold as soon as I got our relative's call telling me that our mother was in the ICU and was in critical condition. The cold settled in and never left until a while ago. The hardest thing for us to deal with was the feeling of helplessness because of the distance.

It was the most somber birthday for my youngest sister. She is the closest to our mom so I could just imagine all the mixed emotions she had. I could not even begin to tell them everything I was told. I could not even process them. It was much easier for me to omit some of the details. I somehow doubt I would be able to convey everything I heard when my mind could not even accept what I heard.

Prayers helped us got by. The support and prayers of friends added to the conviction that all will be well.

Earlier I got word from my mom that her respirator and other life support gadgets have been removed. She will be transferred from the ICU and will stay in the hospital until she recovers. Only after I heard that news that I began to feel warm again.

Friday, November 20, 2009

Lovely

Two guys, a piano and a cello make beautiful music together. Now I suddenly want to learn how to play the cello.

Thursday, November 19, 2009

Happy 20th CRC!!!

In 1989, the UN Convention on the Rights of the Child (CRC) became the first legally binding international convention to affirm human rights for all children. As a binding treaty of international law, it codifies principles that Member States of the United Nations agreed to be universal – for all children, in all countries and cultures, at all times and without exception, simply through the fact of their being born into the human family.

(Text and image from here.)

Tuesday, November 17, 2009

My one vote

I intend to make full use of my one vote. I did not vote in the past two elections. It was only recently that I rediscovered the motivation to exercise that right. I even braved the serpentine lines and tiresome wait at a Comelec satellite office just so I can register again.

As the election fever begins to rage, I am beginning to see more of the usual campaigns. Some ring of empty promises that seem to get hollower as years go by. There are always familiar faces, tired lines, and scarce concrete action to match grand promises made. A part of me doubts that politics and governance will change after new and re-elected leaders take the helm in the contested positions. But, despite my misgivings, I still intend to put much thought and effort to that one vote I have.

If I were to shortlist candidates to give my vote to, I will go for those who exude integrity and have firm stance on the following:

1. Education ~ ensuring that more children get access to free education; that more children will have the opportunity to study beyond elementary school; that literacy rate in the Philippines improve especially in the poorest towns and municipalities.

2. Environment ~ because regardless of which side we stand on the climate change debate, I believe that everyone deserves a future where there is environment sustainability. In the interconnectedness of things, ignoring the potential impacts of neglect is a risk that we cannot afford to make.

3. Sports ~ because apart from promoting a healthy lifestyle, it teaches ideals and values that strengthen character and integrity. The current state of sports in the country desperately needs to be addressed.

Like most of what ails the nation, money (misuse, corruption, etc.) is not the only issue that needs to be addressed. Prudent use of funds, a clear vision, and the courage to catalyze changes define great leaders.

I do not think much will change after the 2010 elections. But even so, I believe that there will be a few who will create small ripples of change that will resonate in the coming years. That thought alone is enough to make me anticipate in casting my one vote. One vote that I will use wisely.

Saturday, November 14, 2009

Pinay long jumper wins gold

A former roommate in the Rizal Memorial Sports Complex South Tower wins the Gold in long jump in the Asian Track and Field Championships held at the Guangdong Olympic Center in Guangzhou, China. Maris' commitment to training paid off.

It is such a source of pride and inspiration to see athletes struggle and emerge victorious through talent, hard work and dedication. Go Pinoy athletes!

Full story:
Torres ends Asian Track & Field Gold drought
From Good News Pilipinas

Natural state of things

Two things came to mind when I read about the rot-proof apple that stays fresh for 4 months:
  1. The apple tree mentioned in James Rollins' book The Doomsday Key
  2. My aunt's tale about a new variant of rice that her friends are recommending to her. The said rice purportedly doesn't spoil for four days when cooked
Although I admire the complexity and genius in developing such produce, I still prefer the natural state of things. Let food rot in their own good time.

go the distance

"People think I'm disciplined. It is not discipline. It is devotion. There is a great difference." ~ Luciano Pavarotti

Image from things we forget

Wednesday, November 11, 2009

Philippine Rowing Team quad in Asian Champs Finals A

The Philippine Rowing Team's quad reached Finals A finished 6th in the 13th Asian Rowing Championships held in Yilan, Chinese Taipei. Congratulations and kudos for your best effort and for giving your all in the intense races with Asian powerhouse teams!

Read more about the recently concluded 13th Asian Rowing Championships in Chris Perry's (FISA Development Consultant, Asia) China stands out at Asian Champs.

I want to be six again

I saw this on Facebook. It was posted by Paolo Jamoralin then shared by my friend Majella Jamoralin.

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I want to be six again

I want to go to McDonald's and think
it's the best place in the world to eat.
I want to sail sticks across a fresh mud puddle
and make waves with rocks.
I want to think M&Ms are better than money
because you can eat them.
I want to play kickball during recess
and stay up on Christmas Eve
waiting to hear Santa and Rudolph on the roof.
I long for the days when life was simple.
When all you knew were your colors,
the addition tables, and simple nursery rhymes,
but it didn't bother you because
you didn't know what you didn't know,
and you didn't care.
I want to go to school and have snack time,
recess, gym, and field trips.
I want to be happy
because I don't know what should make me upset.
I want to think the world is fair,
and everyone in it is honest and good.
I want to believe that anything is possible.
Sometime, while I was maturing,
I learned too much.
I learned of nuclear weapons,
starving and abused kids, and unhappy marriages.

I want to be six again.

I want to think that everyone, including myself,
will live forever because
I don't know the concept of death.
I want to be oblivious to the complexity of life,
and be overly excited by the little things again.
I want television to be something I watch for fun,
not something I use for escape from the things I should be doing.
I want to live knowing
the little things I find exciting,
will always make me as happy as when I first learned them.

I want to be six again.

I remember not seeing the world as a whole,
but rather being aware of only
the things that directly concerned me.
I want to be naive enough to think that if
I'm happy, so is everyone else.
I want to walk down the beach and think
only of the sand beneath my feet,
and the possibility of finding
that blue piece of sea glass I'm looking for.
I want to spend my afternoons
climbing trees and riding my bike,
letting the grownups worry about time,
the dentist, and how to find the money to fix the car.
I want to wonder what I'll do when I grow up,
not worry what I'll do if this doesn't work out.
I want that time back.
I want to use it now as an escape,
so that when my computer crashes,
or I have a mountain of paperwork,
or two depressed friends,
or second thoughts about so many things,
I can travel back and build snowmen
without thinking about anything
except whether the snow sticks together
and what I can possibly use for the snowman's mouth.

I want to be six again.

-anonymous-


Tuesday, November 10, 2009

45 days to go... :)

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How to get an NBI clearance (for the nth time)

This morning I got my NBI clearance in 1 hour and 40 minutes. Not bad, especially with the crowd I saw when I arrived. Lesson learned: Do not leave old NBI clearance behind with other stuff for storage. Renewal takes less time.

I decided to post a few tips below hoping that first time NBI clearance applicants stumble upon it. Some of it might actually be helpful:
~ NBI satellite office located in front of Victoria Mall, Bajada, Davao City allots a certain number of forms for both AM and PM transactions

~ If you wish to finish before lunch time, be at the NBI office on or before 9:00am. I got there at 9:20am and a few minutes after, they announced that they ran out of forms already. Those who were not able to get forms were advised to come back at 1:00pm.

~ Listen carefully to instructions and hone your observation skills. One thing I distinctly noted earlier was the NBI staff I saw were all in plain clothes. Maybe it was laundry day or maybe it was just standard operating procedure for them not to be in uniform but that certainly made it harder to pinpoint people I can approach to ask questions.

Good thing there were volunteers/OJTs (I assumed) who look like students of a law enforcement or maritime school. They at least were easily identifiable in their respective stations. Other than these volunteers/OJTs (again, I'm just assuming), finding someone to provide information was a bit of a pain. It did not help that the tarpaulin listing the steps was posted within what served as waiting area for those whose numbers were already called.

Advice to NBI office mentioned: please put the information near the gate where everyone can easily see it.

I also took some notes from the info tarpaulin detailing the 8 steps in getting an NBI clearance (for first time applicants):
Step 1. Verification of true identification of applicant (required: valid ID with picture or Community Tax Certificate)
Step 2. Filling up in bold letters and checking of NBI clearance card details
Step 3. Fingerprinting by the fingerprint personnel
Step 4. Paying of correct fees at the cashier's office
Local Employment - Php115.00
Travel Abroad - Php115.00
Licenses - Php165.00
Business - Php165.00
BI Requirements - Php415.00
Step 5. Image Capture Processing
Step 6. Data Encoding (to verify whether applicant has no records in file or has no namesake)
Step 7. Releasing in same day for "No" records/"No Hit Applicants"
Step 8. For "Hit applicants" - advice to return in ten (10) working days period

And as end note, keep your NBI clearance where you can easily access or find it come renewal time. Believe me, renewal is much much easier. I should know, I have done it back when I had the foresight to keep my old clearance.

If - read by Roger Federer & Rafael Nadal

This started my day right.

Monday, November 9, 2009

Sport for All

Sport: a human right for all individuals

Sport for All is a movement promoting the Olympic ideal that sport is a human right for all individuals regardless of race, social class and sex. The movement encourages sports activities that can be exercised by people of all ages, both sexes and different social and economic conditions.
Just recently, I mentioned Olympism in an email thread with dragon boat friends. The thread was about some umpiring, rowing and dragon boat updates. I said that whatever our role requires us to do in our respective sports we should not forget to promote the spirit of Olympism, always.

Modern Olympism, as defined here, celebrates the ideals which remain at the heart of Olympism. By blending sport with culture and education, Olympism promotes a way of life based on:

* The balanced development of the body, will and mind
* The joy found in effort
* The educational value of being a good role model
* Respect for universal ethics including tolerance, generosity, unity, friendship, non-discrimination and respect for others.

I thought about all of these immediately after I heard about an unfortunate issue involving my dragon boat club team. Quite frankly, the story is not new to me. I heard variations of it already even before, seemingly harmless remarks from competitors. Those kinds of things happen a lot in sports. No big deal.

This latest incident happened during the November 8th race at Manila Bay. A teammate told me that a paddler from another team called one of the Manila Dragon women's team members "gurang" (oldie) inside a CR. My friend told me that another teammate took exception and respectfully called the lady paddler on it. The said teammate explained quiety that most of the women that she was disrespecting were breast cancer survivors. The girl who made the comment apologized. However, as soon as the teammate who called her on it left, the girl shouted "Wala akong pakialam!" (I don't care!). Unfortunately, my friend said another teammate was still in one of the bathroom stalls and heard her - and triggered another exchange.

In another incident, a different team's member commented "Ay matrona!" while Manila Dragons were unloading.

A few thoughts came to mind after I heard the story:
1. Everyone is entitled to her/his own opinion. Ang pikon talo.
2. Sporting events are often rife with intrigues. Competitiveness and team pride knows no bounds.
3. There is always an opportunity to understand the ideals of sports better. Learning and understanding is a start.

To the Manila Dragons breast cancer survivors, nasty and petty comments thrown at you will not diminish the strength of your spirits.

As for the labels, I personally wish to defy those labels as I intend to play until my old age. Sports for All means sports is for all. No one has the right to discourage healthy individuals from embracing a sporting life.

A series of unfortunate events

I first heard of the story from my tita who is staying over after a hospital procedure. She said the road accident happened sometime last week. A bus headed to Tibal-og, Davao del Norte was following a tractor with a cargo of water. It then tried to overtake the tractor and almost collided head-on with an oncoming truck. The bus tried to avoid the truck and swerved to its right. Unfortunately, it hit the tractor and killed its driver. A bus passenger also died and the conductor lost a leg.

A while ago, my uncle arrived and said another tragedy struck the tractor driver's family. The funeral car carrying the remains was hit by a truck near the scene of the first accident. Perhaps what's most tragic about this was the car's driver, the dead man's mother and a child relative died. The dead man's body was not spared as the coffin flew off the car because of the impact.

The bus driver had the presence of mind to flee the scene. If he did not, there was a chance his life will not be spared by the wrath of grieving relatives and friends who were following the funeral car to bury their dead.

It is hard to feel sorry for a man who, by accident, killed people. Especially when he is found to be carrying shabu in his wallet.

Sunday, November 8, 2009

Lucky

~ A fall to remember
~ Memories of The Hague
~ Maybe because it's November

LSS: Lucky to have been where I have been, lucky to be coming home again

Saturday, November 7, 2009

How Much Water is in Your Latte?

For coffee lovers like me out there, don't worry. This video says it's not about taking away our morning java fix :) | from: The Top 9 Green Viral Videos (via TreeHugger)

Sunday, November 1, 2009

It is personal

"Individually, we are one drop. Together, we are an ocean." ~ Ryunosuke Satoro

Last Wednesday, the news about the dead "butanding" (whale shark) that turned up dead on Manila Bay got my attention. Never in my years of training on the waters of Manila Bay have I seen whales, dead or alive, anywhere near our boats. However, I did witness several instances of dead fishes floating, human wastes of the most unsavory kind, a sea of water lilies, and tons of garbage that made training even more difficult than they usually were. What we did was just to row anyway and try not to think about the sorry state of the bay.

The dead "butanding" made me curious about our new breed of rowers. What is it that they see now when they are out there training? Do they see less of the problems we saw before or is it worse now?

I keep thinking that regardless of where we choose to stand in the issue of climate change, we have to admit that something is terribly wrong if sea creatures keep turning up dead on our shores. Garbage do not belong in what should be pristine waters. They should not endanger the survival of creatures that cannot even speak to beg for our help.

Looking at the big picture can sometimes be daunting, especially if we do not fully understand the root and extent of the problems. But perhaps taking that small step individually is a beginning of the big solution we hope to see. And maybe, if we follow others' lead and personalize the problem we can find the inspiration to make the change we feel are necessary.

Sports is where I found that inspiration. I spent hours every day for years rowing in places where training and competition brought me. I ran in city and country roads where I felt like I was drawing energy from around me. It was only after constantly seeing the beauty that I learned to notice small things that I would have otherwise missed.

Whatever form the problems choose to manifest, they will not go away by themselves. Perhaps what is more important is how we choose to take the next steps to mitigate them. The possibilities are endless and the following are just a few of the many things we can individually and collectively do:

1. Develop the habit of bringing reusable bags when shopping. This helps minimize the use of plastic bags. Just imagine how much we can contribute in minimizing the garbage we have. In those times my paddle caught plastic bags there were moments I wondered if some of them were mine.

Note: 450 Estimated time, in years, for a plastic bottle to degrade completely in a marine environment. (Read more)

2. Use events as an opportunity to set an example. Sporting events often generate a lot of trash. I remember several instances when we organized competitions and had to spend hours cleaning after all sorts of trash left by participants and spectators. It would help if event organizers begin to integrate the values of sport and the environment in each activity. Athletes can be the champions by setting an example. Volunteers can help with encouraging participants and spectators in segregating trash.

3. Instill the values of sport and environment to athletes, coaches, officials, and support staff. Encourage them to share how important is a sustainable environment to the future of their respective sports. They can put a face to another facet of a campaign that ultimately makes winners in all of us.

Over the years, I have seen how the above examples worked. I met people who showed me that all these are possible. This is why I believe it is not too late to "give this planet a sporting chance".

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Resources:
Numbers: Plastics, From Manufacturing to Recycling to Long Death in a Landfill
United Nations Environment Programme
The International Olympic Committee Sport and Environment Commission
Japan Olympic Committee Sport and Environment Commission